Happy Monday kids. Today felt exactly like a Monday even though I didn't technically have work because I had 900 errands to do and halfway through the day realized my driver's license expired 3 weeks ago..OOPS, so 2 hours of fun at the RMV it was. The best part? My name is changing in less than 2 weeks, which I can only assume means another fun RMV trip when I return from my honeymoon. UGH!
Speaking of the name change, I thought I should update you guys on my plans for that after my last post back in December on The Great Name Debate. As I found when I posted that, people have a LOT of opinions on this matter and it's taken me a LOT of debating to get to my decision, but I think I'm pretty happy about it. To summarize my general opinion on the topic, I think it's absolutely the most ridiculous crap EVER that women are expected to take their husbands name. However I can't really think of a better way to do it because honestly, what exactly is going to happen when one hypenated named child marries another? That's a lie, I can absolutely think of a better way to do it, everyone takes the woman's name! Unfortunately Eric does not agree. I told him that if he wants me to take his name he better start making enough money for me to be a housewife. Not a terrible comeback huh? Except that he happens to know that I'd rather work long hours any day than be independently responsible for cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping and other housewife jobs. Comeback fail.
Anyway, I have come to a compromise on the whole thing that I am happy with (and Eric is happy with, which I suppose is important right?). I am going to take Eric's last name in life, keep my last name at work. For me this is the best of both worlds. I'll have the same last name as Eric and my kids, we'll be the "Eric's last name" family. However, I'll still get to keep my "work identity" and the kids, parents and everyone will be 100 percent clear on who I am. Also, since I teach in the town that my Dad and his 7 siblings grew up in, I will still be recognized as being related to them which grants me celebrity status among the townies. Best of both worlds.
My original concern with this option was that I was afraid I'd never get used to my new name without being called it all day, but most people are not teachers and they eventually figure it out, right? Besides, I am currently using my home address for half of my stuff and my parents for the other half (some things I didn't change because I figured I could change everything when I got married instead of changing things twice)- it has yet to cause me any confusion. I have it memorized which credit cards etc have my parents address and I know exactly what I have switched over. Turns out I'm a pretty smart girl, so I can keep it all straight- now with my address all in one place I have to keep myself on my toes somehow right?
My ONLY dilemma left (the hard part is over) is what to do technically speaking. I refuse to get rid of my middle name because it's my mom's name and I like it, so I'm keeping all 4 names (2 names with 5 letters, 2 names with 4 so I promise it's not that long- and I don't expect anyone to call me all of these names at once). The question now is whether to have 2 middle names or 2 last names? An example of a woman who has 2 last names not hypenated is Hillary Diane (middle name) Rodham (first last name) Clinton (second last name). To be honest I could care less either way but I'm wondering what the legal consequences are for a middle name vs. a last? Would I have more options as far as which name to use if my current last name is still part of my last name vs. my middle name? I don't see myself ever using both last names at once, but it's all about what to do with it legally speaking. If any of you have any advice on this, feel free to let me know. I don't know why but I am not a fan of the hyphen, I know its just a line, but it's a line I do not like haha.
Well, that's enough about names...wanna see some yummy food? Sure you do!
I recreated the amazing sandwich I had at Stephanie's the other day. I didn't have all the ingredients but it was still amazing...
Grilled sweet potato and red pepper with some mushed up avocado on sour dough bread. Perfection.
Speaking of perfection...
I dislike doing the work to eat my lobster and I can't eat mayo, so lobster rolls are out. This big guy is lobster for people like me, roasted and torn apart by someone other than me so I get to just enjoy eating my delicious lobster. This guy can be found at Ocean House in Dennisport. If you are in the area and you want amazing food with a view, this is your place.
I want more lobster just thinking about it right now. Even though it's 9:30 at night and I'm full. That's how good it is.
One more note on names, if you are not sure what to do about your change and/or happen to be against name changing you may enjoy this blog post by a woman very very against the name change. I agree with 95 % of what she says, except that I kinda do want the same name as my kids and she says if thats the case then your husband should change his name and frankly mine is not going to do that. That's fine- this is Eric's win...someday it will be my turn to win, and winN I will....
Current score on big giant important things...
Kelly G W H (see? it's not too long): 0
Perhaps this sets me up for choosing the name of our first born?